Choosing to make the right choice!

A young friend of mine told me a story today that has literally broken my heart.  It is the story of a friend of hers who is in a live in relationship with her boyfriend and has fallen pregnant to him for the second time.  The friend chose to abort the first baby because they had agreed they were not ready for a family, however, this time the girl wanted to keep the child.  The first abortion left her feeling sad and guilty so she did not want to go through that pain again.  Sadly, the boyfriend has said she must have an abortion if she wants to keep him. Continue reading “Choosing to make the right choice!”

God will do a new thing if we let go of the past!

I know I have gone over this before, however, I feel it is so important to really get this!

God can’t move us into what He has for us if we keep holding onto the past and keep regurgitating old hurts.  He promises to give us a new start (Isaiah 43:19) but like all things we need to do our bit too.  Dr Caroline Leaf talks about training our brain to think the best instead of continuously thinking negative thoughts in her 21 Day Detox program.  We have the ability and the power to change our thinking; it is hard when you have been through a very stressful or traumatic event but it is possible. Continue reading “God will do a new thing if we let go of the past!”

He has come to set you free!!

 

Did you know that Jesus has come to set you free? Free from pain, free from the hurts of the past, free from sadness free, free, FREE!

This is so exciting, don’t you think! This is a truth worth knowing! John 8:32 tells us ‘you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free’. So what is this truth that makes us free?

The truth is that Jesus died on the cross for our sins, He did this because He loved us so much that He wants us to spend eternity with Him in Heaven (Philippians 2:8). The truth is that God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten Son (John 3:16) so that we could believe in Him and have eternal life. The truth is that God sees us not as we are but as He created us, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). The truth is that we no longer need to listen to the lies of the enemy, satan, whose only purpose is to rob us of a future with God (John 10:10). Continue reading “He has come to set you free!!”

Yesterday is gone! Leave it there!

 

How often do we drag a hurtful situation that happened yesterday, or even longer ago, into our today or even worried about a news story or plot of a TV show we imagine could happen?  I have been so guilty of this so many times myself!

It is so easy when we experience emotional pain to hold onto it, to mull it over, to regurgitate it and allow it to affect our present attitude in a negative way!  Every time I do this and realise what I am doing i get so frustrated that I fell into satan’s trap AGAIN!  God does not want us to dwell on painful or negative thoughts, in fact Phillipians 4:8 tell us exactly what we should be thinking on. Continue reading “Yesterday is gone! Leave it there!”

Embrace your story! Jesus is the author and the answer!

I have been going through so many changes and season’s in my life over the past few years and sometimes I just feel like my head is spinning and I just want it all to stop! Lately though I have felt something different, something exciting, a little bit scary but something I just can’t deny! It is a stirring and an almost undeniable need to speak out about my story, to stand WITH those who have been abused, to WALK with women through the journey of healing and CELEBRATE the victory of overcoming and stepping out of a life of abuse! I know all this is possible because I have been there, I have felt the darkness overwhelm me because of abuse. I have felt unloved, unattractive, unimportant and any other ‘un’ word you can throw at me BUT because I am loved by my Saviour I believe I am now walking in victory over the plans satan had for me to bring me down. Continue reading “Embrace your story! Jesus is the author and the answer!”

Own your story and don’t be ashamed of your past!!

 

I believe that the events that happen in our lives are just parts of our story and they make up who we are!

When I was 35 years old and a relatively new Christian I was praying one morning and begging God to heal me from the sexual abuse I had suffered as a child. God gave me a vision of a tapestry I had been attempting to complete for years for my then husband. It was a huge tapestry that needed to be done on one of those roll frame things (I am not really someone who would normally do a tapestry but I was trying to be creative!). I had completed less than a quarter of this tapestry and God said “Your life is like that tapestry, it is only partly completed and the abuse that you suffered are only a few stitches that will make up the whole of your life. Put it into perspective!” Continue reading “Own your story and don’t be ashamed of your past!!”

There is nothing impossible with God!

When I started this blog I promised you that we would do this journey towards healing together and that I would be raw and honest with you. So to be honest, this morning when I woke up I felt tired, discouraged and sad. All I wanted to do was just curl up in bed and stay there for the day. Then I rolled over, opened my eyes and saw my beautiful six year old granddaughter sleeping beside me and I knew that she deserved more from me than a Nanna who didn’t want to participate in the day. Continue reading “There is nothing impossible with God!”

Be the woman God called you to be!

 

Being the woman God called you to be can be quite challenging, exciting but challenging.  It requires a change in mindset, a change in our thinking, a change in the way we look at the world and most definiteily a change in the way we look at ourselves.  But I am convinced that if we take up this challenge, as God wants us to do, that we will be rewarded with a life that we only dreamed of living before! Continue reading “Be the woman God called you to be!”

Being alone does not mean you are lonely!

 

 

Loneliness can be soul destroying and the fear of it is one of the main reason’s women stay in bad relationships.  I know this is something that I have had great battles with in recent years.    For many years I was afraid to be alone, I wouldn’t stay in my house by myself, I needed to be around people all the time and it is one of the main reasons I stayed in my marriage for so long.  Not a healthy reason to stay!

In the past 3 years I have discovered the importance of being alone and it has been life changing!  If we take Jesus as our example, and we should, He took time out to be alone often. In Matthew 14:23  Jesus took time to be alone to pray after He had fed the multitudes from five loaves and two fish.  He went alone to pray and sent His disciples out on their boat and then walked out to meet them in Mark 6:47 .  When Jesus knew that the people were going to take Him by force to make Him King (prematurely) He departed to be alone (John 6:15) .

So we can take from Jesus example that whenever He was facing a ‘challenge’ in His life He didn’t call all His bestie’s around and discuss the pro’s and con’s or have a whinge about all the pressure that was being put on Him.  Jesus withdrew and spent time with His Father, He prayed and sought God’s blessing and direction, He was comforted by the time alone with His Father and it is interesting to note that nowhere in the bible does it say that Jesus was ever lonely.

Friends, when you are in a situation that you know you shouldn’t be in, take the time to seek YOUR Heavenly Father, get His wisdom and follow His direction and He will direct your steps (Psalm 119:133).  You are never, ever truly alone, you always have Jesus!

 

Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Restorer

Jesus came so that we may live a full life, He has paid our debts, He has set us free from fear and He did this through the cross.  He is our Redeemer and He lives in us.   There are at least 22 references in the Bible to Jesus our Redeemer from Job through to  Luke but what does the word “redeem’ mean?

One definition on Dictionary.com says to ‘buy or pay off, clear by payment’ this would mean that Jesus paid the price for us and that price was going through a horrific and painful death so that we could live eternally in Heaven with our heavenly father.  That is the most humbling thought if we would just grasp the gravity of what He did!  Before Jesus went to the cross we were all bound for hell because of our sinful nature.  We were lost with no way out but God, through His unfailing love for His creation, sent us a ‘get out jail free’ card in the form of His Son Jesus Christ (John 3:16). Continue reading “Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Restorer”