What are your thoughts for 2018?

It is very usual for me to become quite reflective as we go from the old year to the new. It is important to me that each year I improve an area of my life, no matter how small that change should be.

As I look towards 2018 and back on 2017 I am amazed at how far God has brought me this year. At the start of 2017 I was struggling with working full time in a new and quite demanding job, my children and myself were still suffering from a little “shell shock’ from my marriage breakdown, in short I was a barely functioning mess who was quite adept at making sure my ‘mask’ was in place before going out in public. Only those closest to me could even guess how fragile I actually was. Continue reading “What are your thoughts for 2018?”

Counting it all joy!

The world has a saying “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger!” and it is true.  It is so hard to see the silver lining when you are going through the darkness of abuse, depression, grief, I know only too well how hard it is.  However, don’t give up!  One day you will get the opportunity to look back down that dark tunnel from the other side and you will be amazed at how strong you have become while dealing with the hardship! Continue reading “Counting it all joy!”

Choosing to make the right choice!

A young friend of mine told me a story today that has literally broken my heart.  It is the story of a friend of hers who is in a live in relationship with her boyfriend and has fallen pregnant to him for the second time.  The friend chose to abort the first baby because they had agreed they were not ready for a family, however, this time the girl wanted to keep the child.  The first abortion left her feeling sad and guilty so she did not want to go through that pain again.  Sadly, the boyfriend has said she must have an abortion if she wants to keep him. Continue reading “Choosing to make the right choice!”

God will do a new thing if we let go of the past!

I know I have gone over this before, however, I feel it is so important to really get this!

God can’t move us into what He has for us if we keep holding onto the past and keep regurgitating old hurts.  He promises to give us a new start (Isaiah 43:19) but like all things we need to do our bit too.  Dr Caroline Leaf talks about training our brain to think the best instead of continuously thinking negative thoughts in her 21 Day Detox program.  We have the ability and the power to change our thinking; it is hard when you have been through a very stressful or traumatic event but it is possible. Continue reading “God will do a new thing if we let go of the past!”

He has come to set you free!!


Did you know that Jesus has come to set you free? Free from pain, free from the hurts of the past, free from sadness free, free, FREE!

This is so exciting, don’t you think! This is a truth worth knowing! John 8:32 tells us ‘you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free’. So what is this truth that makes us free?

The truth is that Jesus died on the cross for our sins, He did this because He loved us so much that He wants us to spend eternity with Him in Heaven (Philippians 2:8). The truth is that God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten Son (John 3:16) so that we could believe in Him and have eternal life. The truth is that God sees us not as we are but as He created us, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). The truth is that we no longer need to listen to the lies of the enemy, satan, whose only purpose is to rob us of a future with God (John 10:10). Continue reading “He has come to set you free!!”

Yesterday is gone! Leave it there!


How often do we drag a hurtful situation that happened yesterday, or even longer ago, into our today or even worried about a news story or plot of a TV show we imagine could happen?  I have been so guilty of this so many times myself!

It is so easy when we experience emotional pain to hold onto it, to mull it over, to regurgitate it and allow it to affect our present attitude in a negative way!  Every time I do this and realise what I am doing i get so frustrated that I fell into satan’s trap AGAIN!  God does not want us to dwell on painful or negative thoughts, in fact Phillipians 4:8 tell us exactly what we should be thinking on. Continue reading “Yesterday is gone! Leave it there!”

Embrace your story! Jesus is the author and the answer!

I have been going through so many changes and season’s in my life over the past few years and sometimes I just feel like my head is spinning and I just want it all to stop! Lately though I have felt something different, something exciting, a little bit scary but something I just can’t deny! It is a stirring and an almost undeniable need to speak out about my story, to stand WITH those who have been abused, to WALK with women through the journey of healing and CELEBRATE the victory of overcoming and stepping out of a life of abuse! I know all this is possible because I have been there, I have felt the darkness overwhelm me because of abuse. I have felt unloved, unattractive, unimportant and any other ‘un’ word you can throw at me BUT because I am loved by my Saviour I believe I am now walking in victory over the plans satan had for me to bring me down. Continue reading “Embrace your story! Jesus is the author and the answer!”

Own your story and don’t be ashamed of your past!!


I believe that the events that happen in our lives are just parts of our story and they make up who we are!

When I was 35 years old and a relatively new Christian I was praying one morning and begging God to heal me from the sexual abuse I had suffered as a child. God gave me a vision of a tapestry I had been attempting to complete for years for my then husband. It was a huge tapestry that needed to be done on one of those roll frame things (I am not really someone who would normally do a tapestry but I was trying to be creative!). I had completed less than a quarter of this tapestry and God said “Your life is like that tapestry, it is only partly completed and the abuse that you suffered are only a few stitches that will make up the whole of your life. Put it into perspective!” Continue reading “Own your story and don’t be ashamed of your past!!”

There is nothing impossible with God!

When I started this blog I promised you that we would do this journey towards healing together and that I would be raw and honest with you. So to be honest, this morning when I woke up I felt tired, discouraged and sad. All I wanted to do was just curl up in bed and stay there for the day. Then I rolled over, opened my eyes and saw my beautiful six year old granddaughter sleeping beside me and I knew that she deserved more from me than a Nanna who didn’t want to participate in the day. Continue reading “There is nothing impossible with God!”

Be the woman God called you to be!


Being the woman God called you to be can be quite challenging, exciting but challenging.  It requires a change in mindset, a change in our thinking, a change in the way we look at the world and most definiteily a change in the way we look at ourselves.  But I am convinced that if we take up this challenge, as God wants us to do, that we will be rewarded with a life that we only dreamed of living before! Continue reading “Be the woman God called you to be!”