You are never alone!

It is scary when you realise you need to start doing things differently, whether it be a new job, a nutrition program or leaving an unhealthy relationship. Many women stay in relationships because they are afraid of being on their own. That was me. I was married for 27 years, three children, one grandchild and I knew that my marriage had problems but I had never lived on my own or been responsible for my children on my own and it was scary enough to keep me in my marriage. However, one day I realised that my marriage was just too broken and it could not be fixed so I needed to make the only decision I knew I could make, leave.

The first few weeks were very difficult for me, emotionally, physically (I broke my wrist a week after I left and could not work!), financially and psychologically. However, I did know one thing, God was with me.  Exodus 33:14 tells us that His presence is always with us and because of that we can rest and not stress about what is going to happen next. As I have said in a previous blog, it has taken me a while to actually truly grab hold of this concept but I got there in the end.

The reason I finally understood is that I looked back on the last 2 ½ years since my marriage broke down and I realised that myself and my children have not lacked anything that we have needed and that is amazing!  Whatever we have needed, God has provided as He promised (Philippians 4:19). We have done things that we never thought that we would be able to do and it is all because my God loves us. I remember telling my daughter on the night that my ex-husband and I broke up that God’s plans for us hasn’t changed, it just looks a little different than what it did before. The most amazing thing is that I am now more happy and more content with my life than I have ever been before. By saying this I don’t mean to disrespect my ex-husband, it is just that I have learned to trust God in EVERYTHING! God has become my husband (Isaiah 54:5) and I know that He will never let me down (Hebrews 13:5).

I find it so incredible to think that only just over 2 years ago I was prepared to stay in a marriage that did not fulfil me, that made me feel less than who I knew myself to be and that was just so very unhappy and now I am a totally different person than what I was back then. I have attended counselling and I am now so much more confident, I am not afraid to think outside of the tiny world that I had lived in. I am excited for my future and that of my children! My friends, please be brave! Don’t settle for a life that is not the best that God has for you! He came to give you life, and life more abundantly (John 10:10) but you have to reach out and grab it!   If your relationship needs help, get it!  If your health needs improving, change it!  If your job needs to change, change it! Don’t be afraid (2 Timothy 1:7)

Conquering the Goliath’s in our lives

We all go through periods in our lives when our problems seem so overwhelming, so huge that we just can’t see how we are ever going to make it to the other side! I truly know how that feels, and I know that when life gets that way you just can’t seem to think about anything but your massive problem!

Let me tell you, amazing ladies, you will get to the other side. Psalm 23 tell us that we go “THROUGH the valley of the shadow of death”, we don’t camp there unless we choose to and really who would want to? Life happens and sometimes it bites, but we can be giant slayers like David with Goliath if we just trust in God. Continue reading “Conquering the Goliath’s in our lives”

Jesus – our new beginning!

Do you ever think that your life is always going to be sad, traumatic, painful………?   You can insert whichever adjective you like but when you start to live a life with Christ life can take a huge turn for the better.  Isaiah 43:19  tells us “Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness And rivers in the desert.”  Surely that should excite you!  We all need a new start when we think we just can’t keep going with life the way it is.

Friends, God promises to show us the way to live a life that is pleasing to Him and full of His blessings!  Seriously, I truly get so excited writing these blogs because when I am studying out scripture for these posts, God is revealing more of Himself to me! Continue reading “Jesus – our new beginning!”

Don’t bury your pain in busyness!

It appears to be quite common for us humans to throw ourselves into some form of ‘busyness’ when we experience a painful or traumatic event. We do this in order to avoid dealing with the pain, I was guilty of this after my marriage broke down. I threw myself into my work, I took on a psychology degree and anything else I could think of that helped me not to remember or think about what had happened. Continue reading “Don’t bury your pain in busyness!”