The world has a saying “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger!” and it is true. It is so hard to see the silver lining when you are going through the darkness of abuse, depression, grief, I know only too well how hard it is. However, don’t give up! One day you will get the opportunity to look back down that dark tunnel from the other side and you will be amazed at how strong you have become while dealing with the hardship!
When you start going to the gym, your muscles aren’t very strong but as you continue to ‘punish’ them with increasingly heavy weights they become stronger and you can do more reps or run longer distances or whatever your chosen exercise is, you get better at it. It is the same when dealing with challenges in life. None of us want to deal with problems, I think we all dream of living this amazingly carefree life, laying on a tropical beach, being served cool drinks and mangoes. Sounds great doesn’t it?
It does sound good, but that in itself would produce problems, that beach would be crowded with all of us crammed on their seeking our life of leisure! So instead, God instructs us to do this thing called life, with all its trials and tribulations, and the trick is to be happy while doing it. James 1:2-8 is probably one of the most challenging scriptures to read. How can you be joyful when your life has fallen apart, or you have lost someone close to you, or you discover that your partner is abusive or whatever your challenge may be. God isn’t saying that you shouldn’t feel grief or sadness, He gave us those emotions as part of our DNA. What, I believe, He is telling us is have peace, trust Him, lean on Him, He is always there for us when perhaps no-one else is. Indeed, Deutoronomy 20:4 tells us that not only is with us He fights our battles for us, He is ALWAYS there for us!
I know this to be true. The day I realised that my marriage was broken beyond repair the first thing I felt the Holy Spirit tell me to do was pray. So I did and I immediately felt peace, I felt a strength I didn’t know I possessed and I knew, without a doubt, that no matter how hard things got, my God was going to see me through it all. It has been almost three years now, I have still felt incredible sadness, grief, anger and every other emotion you can think of, but I have gotten to the other side and I now count it all joy. Beautiful friends, you can get there too, and you will, if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other, trust God and keep moving forward. One of my favourite verses in the Bible is Proverbs 3:5-6, read it and make it yours today.
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