Don’t bury your pain in busyness!

It appears to be quite common for us humans to throw ourselves into some form of ‘busyness’ when we experience a painful or traumatic event. We do this in order to avoid dealing with the pain, I was guilty of this after my marriage broke down. I threw myself into my work, I took on a psychology degree and anything else I could think of that helped me not to remember or think about what had happened.

The only thing is it didn’t heal the pain it just delayed the inevitable realisation that my life was now painfully different from what I had imagined it would be at this time of my life. I could run but I couldn’t hide from what I had to face up to. It wasn’t just the pain I had to face it was the realisation that in all my ‘busyness’ I had been playing God! I had refused God the privilege of providing for me because I was too busy working myself almost into a mental breakdown so that I could pay my bills. By doing this I became cranky and snappy with my children, especially my daughter, and she really didn’t need me to be this way. She wanted her mum whole and happy and in a place where I could help her deal with her own emotional trauma.

Matthew 11:30 tells us “Come to me all you who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest’. Now I prayed to God and I talked to Him about my burdens but I never left them with Him. After God and I would have our chat, I would just pick up my burdens again and carry them with me until next time. Any familiar bells ringing for you here? We all do it but we really don’t have to.

While being busy is good, we should never be lazy, it is the motivation for being busy that is the problem. God promises to provide for us (Philippians 4:19) and when we try to work it all out ourselves it really can destroy our lives. We all need to pay the bills, but we also need to find the right work/life balance and trust God to make ends meet.

Since I received this revelation about six weeks ago, life has been a whole lot happier. If you have a burden today, I encourage you to go and spend time with God and lay your burden at His feet. When you are finished talking with Him, don’t pick your burden up again. He hears our prayers and He answers them.

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