This is the message I posted on facebook when I was locked out of this website. In case you aren’t on the facebook page I hope you enjoy it.
When we begin a relationship with Christ we become a new creation in Him (2 Corinthians 5:17). We should let go of the old us and embrace the new beginning Jesus offers us. This means that we should no longer respond or react in the same way we used to.
When someone hurts us we don’t need to get revenge, God promises us that He is the judge and that He will avenge our hurts. As a new creation we are to do the OPPOSITE of what the world teaches us and turn the other cheek. This does not mean that we are to be doormats and let people walk all over us, but instead walk with dignity and don’t let what other people do to us affect our peace.
Being hurt, physically, emotionally or sexually, is extremely painful and it is natural to want to hurt the person that hurt you, but friends, that won’t make you feel any better really. It may feel better for a moment but I urge you not to sink to the level of others. Trust me, when we rise above the circumstances, when we do things God’s way people notice, we become much more attractive to others and we become the message of God’s love to them. James 3:8 tells us that the tongue is evil and full of deadly poison, words have the power to hurt, it is important to take our thoughts captive and not get into word wars with those who have hurt us. This also means don’t go around telling people how bad this person is, it really isn’t anyone else’s business and it will not only hurt the other person but you as well.
I know it feels natural to lash out and vent when bad stuff happens and I am not advising you to hold it in but you do have options:
1. Find a trusted friend, someone who you know to be safe and won’t be involved in spreading gossip around.
2. Get yourself a good psychologist or counsellor and talk to them. These people are trained to help you and there is nothing wrong with getting help. It is actually a mature and healthy process to go through.
3. Talk to God. He knows what happened and He knows how you feel and only He has the power to set you free.
Romans 12:9-21 gives us clear guidance as to how we, as Christians, should behave to others, and even to those who have hurt us. It is never easy, I struggle with this myself, but with Jesus help I know we can do it and when we do there will be blessing upon blessing for us.